I have been putting this topic off for a while now, but this is something that I feel like I need to discuss with you all. This is for all of you who are constantly going through the struggle of having parents that are divorced. I know it can be difficult at times.
I have come from a broken family ever since I was five years old, so I know what it can be like. At that age, my tiny mind wasn’t capable of understanding what was actually happening when I had to go back and forth between houses every other weekend. I would cry every single time I had to go see my Biological father because I didn’t want to leave my Mom.
Fast forward to when I was in High School… My Biological father terminated his rights, which means he is not my dad anymore. I don’t claim him as my father and he hasn’t been in my life ever since. It was honestly for the best because I have grown so much without him and claim God as my real Father now. I truly do believe God led us out of that situation and I am forever grateful!
There are other things individuals struggle with when coming from a divorced household.
They may wonder if they should change their last name or not because of their father. The individual may also tend to despise their last name so much because of all of the horrible memories the parent caused. Honestly, I have been there!
I was asked if I wanted to change my last name or not. I chose not to because one day I will be changing my last name and it will only be a one-time thing. My last name will never define who I am as an individual and even though I look like my biological father, I will not be like him. For those who have been in this situation before, I want to tell you that you should own your last name because it is YOURS. Yes, it is yours! Don’t let it define who you are. Think about it this way, you may be passing it down to your children one day so take pride in that!
This leads to what I have been meaning to address ever since my book, Kylie’s Corner launched. You all may be wondering why I am named Kylie Celine on this blog, but it says Kylie Trant on my book. Well, Celine is my middle name, while Trant is actually my last name. I love being called Kylie Celine because it sounds so beautiful together and I do love my middle name.
I honestly didn’t think it through when I was in the beginning stages of publishing my book and this blog didn’t even exist back then. It never crossed my mind until I started searching for my first and last name on Google! That was when everything about my nook started popping up and that was when I realized I wished I would have changed it to Kylie Celine instead. Oh well! Everything happens for a reason and I am still so proud of everything about my book. It was just meant to be, I guess. I am sorry if that confused any of you. I wanted to put that out there.
Everyone has a story from their past that made them who they are today. Every single scenario that happens to you helps form you and without it, you wouldn’t be the same person. It is actually a blessing that God put me through all of that in my past, especially when I thought my world was crumbling down. I was definitely broken; however, God has made me into a new person. Because of that, I see the world differently and I have sympathy for children and even teenagers that have to go through hardships because of a divorce.
To those who are currently dealing with your parents’ divorce, it gets better. God will lead you out of the pain you are feeling and He is going to bless you tremendously, trust me. A huge blessing is coming your way!
Thank y’all for taking the time to always read my posts, especially when they are long like this! It still means so much to me.