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In society today, we tend to focus more on making other people happy without even thinking about how we feel on the inside. We worry so much about what people might think of us or wonder about what people might say if we do a certain thing. Trust me, we have all been there before!

We are not a puppet waiting for someone to make the decisions for us and we don’t have to make every single person happy.

You shouldn’t let someone have that kind of power over your life and you do need to think about yourself for once!

Think about these questions:

How do you feel when someone disagrees about something you’re wanting to do?

Do you tend to make everyone around you happy to the point you forget about what you really want to do?

Do you say ‘yes’ to everything?

Does someone else make all the decisions for you and you’re left with no input at all with what you’re wanting to do?

Do you sometimes feel forced to do something you really don’t want to do?

If you have answered yes to some of the questions above, you might be considered as a “people pleaser.”

If you do worry about what people might think of you when you make a certain decision, this open letter is for you and for anyone who feels like they have to say ‘yes’ to everything.

My Sweet friend, I used to be just like you who would try to make everyone happy, even if that meant forgetting about myself.

I would be quiet about certain things and would never say anything at all, it was as if I didn’t have a voice.

I didn’t have the best relationship when it comes to food – when people would ask me if I wanted something, I would agree to whatever it was instead of thinking about how the food made my body feel on the inside.

I have also felt like people always had high expectations for me and if I didn’t meet them, I would feel like I wasn’t ever good enough.

My Sweet friend, I bet you have been through something similar.

I even remember being so afraid of going to the Doctor by myself when I was younger and I used to have my parent do all the talking for me. I’m proud to say that today, I go to the Doctor alone and I’m not afraid of it. Today, I make my own decisions and I always think about what is best for me; not what other people might think is best.

My Sweet friend, I’m telling you this because there is hope for you and I know you will break free from pleasing the people around you.

Like I have said, you’re not a puppet on strings who someone is controlling you behind the scenes.

You’re human and you have the right to make decisions for yourself.

My Sweet friend, you matter so much and sometimes, you have to step in and do what is best for you.

You have feelings, too and even if someone doesn’t agree with you about something you’re doing in your life, please know that it’s okay.

We all have different perspectives about things and at the end of the day, you need to think about yourself first.

Ask yourself: Does this make me happy or am I doing this because someone else is wanting me to?

If you answered no, then think about what you’re wanting to do and honestly, just go do it. Forget about what everyone might think, seriously!

Think about this: Let’s say you looked back on your life when you’re old. How would you see your life as? Would you think that you were just so miserable all the time and barely did anything because someone else made the decisions for you, or did you actually live your life exactly how you wanted to live it by doing the things you truly wanted to do?

We shouldn’t have to worry so much about what other people might think because it’s your life to live, not theirs. You have only one life to live.

My Sweet friend, you should also try praying before acting on something in your life to see if whatever it is, is right for you. God knows what is best for you and even if His plan for you doesn’t make sense right now, keep on trusting Him because it’s going to all work out whether if you believe it or not!

My Sweet friend, God sees you and He sees that you’re sometimes not happy with the decisions you have made. It’s okay to start over and to start making the decisions for yourself, with the help from God, of course!

When you find the time, please listen to “The Prayer” by Danny Gokey and Natalie Grant.

“I pray You’ll be our eyes
And watch us where we go
And help us to be wise
In times when we don’t know

Let this be our prayer
When we lose our way
Lead us to a place
Guide us with Your grace
To a place where we’ll be safe”

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“You can’t let people scare you. You can’t go your whole life trying to please everyone else. You can’t go through life worried about what everyone else is going to think.”

12 thoughts on “An Open Letter: To The One Who Cannot Help Being A People Pleaser

  1. Hmmm wow! You posted this in the right time and I praise the LORD for allowing me to read this. I’m still breaking out from that chain of people pleasing. I want to please God not man. The process isn’t going to be a quick fix but it will take some time and I will get better daily with His help. I feel hurt when I justly correct my mom or sis about the things they say at times or when I try to explain something to them about our walk in Christ, it’s like no one understands and I take it to God in prayer and let it go. I know it’s something I will overcome and need to continually pray about. But you know when you really have a heart for God’s sheep and when you really want to see them change and please God and sometimes you’re not really seeing that change, but then again God does the changing from the inside out. It can really be painful to me but God comforts me and let’s me know that’s Him in control and not me. Just really needed to let that out. 🙂 You are being used mightily and it is impacting life’s around the world for God, remember that. God bless you richly! ❤

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    1. Maybe God is speaking through me and He knew you needed this✨ I have learned that we need to let those things go and life really is so short. I totally understand what you’re saying because you want the best for them and you don’t want to see them hurt. Thank you for telling me that, sis! Thank you and you’re being used all around the world for God too! Keep on doing what you’re doing👏🏻 God bless you too💗

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      1. Yessssss!!! He knew I needed to remove my hand from that grip. I still grip back unto it at times, but then He gives me the strength to let it go. It’s true, but then again when you’re deeply in love with Christ you tend to care for people in a deeper way than when you were without Him in the world. It’s different. Yup, that’s it. You’re welcome! 🙂 most welcome always! All glory to God for that, for it’s not about us but Him. Thank you love! ❤

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  2. For most of my life I’ve been a people pleaser. At one point in my life I was a real push over. I didn’t know where other people decisions began and where my ended, my decisions were based on what made other people comfortable with. I thought this made me a “peacemaker”, and likable. Little did I know it made me feel lost and confused. When we go through life being a people pleaser we are living on other people’s terms. You think you are just avoid being confrontational but keeping your real feelings bottled up doesn’t serve a good purpose. It just results in you being around people that treat you like a doormat.

    For most of my life, I used people pleasing like in the same way people use drugs and alcohol as a way to avoid the discomfort of other’s disapproval. When it came to be invalidated or perceived as being in the wrong, I couldn’t handle it.

    When I gave me life to Christ I knew I needed to stop trying to pleasing other people. I wasn’t created to please people. I was created to worship God. It’s time to stop waiting and praying for people to understand how much pressure they are putting on us or hoping one day they’ll change and become less demanding. Without changing our behaviors, nothing else will change. We teach people how to treat us.

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    1. Thank you for telling me this, Kim! I can see how you thought you were being a peacemaker, you didn’t want anyone to be mad at your decisions so you always went with whatever it makes people happy. Am I right? I can relate to that too and good things don’t ever come when we bottle up our feeling because sooner or later, it will all explode! I agree with the last paragraph – we’re here to do whatever God has asked of us to do and not do whatever people want us to do. We do lose ourselves once we start thinking about how others might feel about our decisions and we even forget about ourselves. We need to start doing whatever feels right and pray about it before we make a decision. We all have different perspectives about certain things, but we start finding ourselves again once we stop trying to please people. We shouldn’t have to care so much what other people might think because we have one chance at life and life is so short. Thank you for reading this open letter, Kim and I enjoyed reading how you have battled with being a people pleaser. God bless you✨💗

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