I’m just now sitting down to write this on Saturday… I usually have a routine where I do all of the graphics on Wednesdays and then, write the blog posts on Thursdays. Well, for the past few days, I haven’t felt like doing anything. To be honest, I thought that the only blog posts that would be up on the Kylie’s Corner & More blog for this week are the ones I post for the daily devotional and that’s it.
I have started feeling better to where I want to write these blog posts instead of letting each day pass by without writing them.
I thought I was out of the so called “dark hole,” but I got myself stuck in it again and even though I’m not fully out of it, I’m going to tell y’all what I have started doing to help me get out of that mindset.
I talked about the dark hole in this blog post.
Sometimes being in a dark hole means you have a difficult time controlling your emotions where you just cry and you have no idea why you are crying.
Sometimes being in a dark hole means you struggle with believing that things will get better soon.
You let these negative thoughts and fear control you.
You might even feel like someone is pressing down on you and you feel like you can’t breathe. This recently happened to me. It felt as if something was pushing down on my body. I really can’t explain it.
Sometimes being in a dark hole means you have absolutely no motivation at all to do anything or do the things you love to do. You rather let the day pass, stay in bed all day, and watch Hallmark movies. I get it. I have been there.
Sometimes being in a dark hole means skipping meals because you don’t feel like eating or cooking anything.
Being in a dark hole is such a difficult concept to get your mind and body out of.
It’s easy to let fear and stress control you, but it’s even more difficult to say no to fear and the stress that comes with it. It’s hard to push fear away, especially with everything that has been happening in the world.
I took the first step of saying no to fear by registering for my certification exam and choosing the day I’m going to take it. This took a lot out of me to do. Ever since this pandemic started, I kept putting off scheduling it because I have heard about people getting their testing day cancelled, especially at the last minute! I finally just went for it and told myself, “whatever happens, happens. It will all be ok because it’s in God’s hands now.” It has always been in His hands. This pandemic has caused me to study so much for this exam and I even discovered several new resources to help prepare me for this test. I’m a true believer that everything happens for a reason, even when things don’t go as planned. We have to take a step back and realize we are on God’s time, not our time!
Anyways, it is hard getting out of the dark hole and trying to help your mental health. It does stink being in this mindset and feeling as if someone or something was weighing on you to the point you have to catch your breath.
This is what I have started doing to get my mindset better…
1. Have a routine
In order for us to get out of the dark hole, we need structure! I don’t know about you, but when I don’t have anything on my to-do list or no plan for the day, I will do absolutely nothing and nothing will get done for that day!
I always write down what I’m going to do for the day and then, cross things out as I complete each task!
On the weekdays, I wake up, make my bed, start moving my body by working out, wash my face, brush my teeth, make some oatmeal for breakfast, and read a devotional while I eat breakfast.
That is what I do in the mornings and I have started to realize that when I have a routine in place, I tend to not go down this path where my mindset shifts and goes down this dark hole.
Does a routine help you?
2. Have quiet time
I started implementing the daily devotionals on the Bible App into my morning routine and it has truly made a difference so far. For instance, when I started going in the dark hole again, I skipped the devotional for the day and right there, I could tell that reading the daily devotional every morning has helped me so much. When I was reading them every morning, I felt more positive, I was back to my happy self, and I didn’t let anxiety or fear get the best of me.
Having a time in your day where you stop whatever you’re doing and having the quiet time will help your mental health so much. During this time, do whatever is best for you to help you get out of this negative mindset – do something for 15 minutes. Pray to God, read your Bible, write out your thoughts, do yoga, etc. Do something that will help your mental health for 15 minutes and focus only on that.
3. Write down 5 things you are grateful for each day
Every night before I go to sleep, I type out 5 things I’m grateful for and I do it on the Bible App. This app has a place where you can write down your prayers and save them!
I started doing this a few weeks ago and each night, I think about something different I’m grateful for and there is only one thing that I write down every single night – I’m grateful to be alive. I feel like we take being alive for granted because we think we are going to live forever and we tend to forget that life is so short! It’s such a blessing to be alive today, especially during a pandemic!! Several lives have been taken so soon because of the coronavirus and we should be thanking God that we have been healthy ever since the pandemic started, and we haven’t tested positive for the coronavirus. It’s such a blessing!
Realizing the blessings God has given you, will change your mindset and you will soon realize how blessed you really are. You will start appreciating the things around you and you will never take the blessings God has given you for granted ever again.
If you don’t write down 5 things you are grateful for before you go to sleep, I encourage you to start doing it and you’re not going to regret it!
You can do this at any time and it doesn’t have to be just at night, you can do it first thing when you wake up in the morning, so you can do this at any time!
4. Don’t let fear control your life
This is the last thing I have been trying to do and it’s a HUGE one!
I know it’s easier said than done. This one is the most difficult to do. Like I have said, everything happens for a reason and we need to accept that. We have absolutely no control about what will be happening with this pandemic. Things happen that we can’t change and all we can do is try out best to accept it.
We have no idea when this pandemic will end and only God knows when. I truly believe God is trying to tell all of us something and we need to listen to Him.
Everything is going to be ok. Place all of it in God’s hands and tell yourself that it is all in God’s hands now. Whatever happens, that means God is allowing it to happen in your life. What are you going to do about it?
It’s so easy to just let fear control you and worry about things that are out of your control. Focus on the things you can control.
You can control the way you respond
How you react
The words you tell yourself
You can try to improve your mental health to where you get it out of this dark hole
You can even decide if you are going to let fear control you or not
Rather than focusing on things you can’t control, put all of your focus on God and keep your eyes on Him no matter what happens.
When you face something that seems overwhelming, put it in the hands of God and declare, “God’s got this!”
On July 20, we started the Fix Your Eyes On Jesus: Devotions From Time of Grace on the Bible App and you can catch up here!
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